Individual & Couples Counseling

I offer relationship counseling for individuals & couples. I currently work from home and meet with couples only by video and individuals either by video or phone. My video platform is simple to use and allows us to meet securely while in separate places.


I offer both short-term and long term counseling – depending on your emotional, financial, and scheduling needs. If short-term, we’ll set clear goals in the first session and work intensely until the goals have been met. Some examples of short term goals would be to process a recent breakup, find a way to talk about money, or figure out how to get through the holiday season. If long term, we’ll work on the broader communication & connection issues that you struggle with daily.

My approach to counseling is a depth approach – recognizing that underneath a simple fight about taking out the garbage or coming home late are layers of emotions that keep us cycling through the same arguments. I will work with you to recognize these stuck places and help you break the patterns of anger, frustration and disconnection. Counseling is hard work, sure — but it is also engaging, intense, fun and dynamic. I will help you build a foundation upon which you can rest.

Here are some articles I’ve written that will give you a feel for my counseling style.


If you find yourself repeating the same relationship patterns over and over again, I can help you assess where you are getting stuck and work with you to change these patterns. If you’ve just begun a new relationship and want to be sure you are showing up for it in a real and honest way, we can take a look at your attachment style and how it affects your connection.  If your work relationships, family connections, or friendships feel challenging, we can check out where the complications show up, locate patterns, say good-bye to toxic relationships, and practice nurturing the ones that need tending. Working one on one gives you the focus to look closely at how you participate in your relationships with others and to work intensely with me on making changes.



If you are like many couples, by the time you start the search for marriage counseling or couples counseling, it is hard to believe anything will help you get back on track. Maybe the distance between you and your partner feels like a huge chasm. Maybe you can’t remember a time when you weren’t fighting over every seemingly small thing. Maybe that romantic feeling hasn’t been there in years.

Or maybe you are just starting out and want to be sure your relationship doesn’t blow up or the passion doesn’t burn out once you are beyond the honeymoon phase.

Couples come to counseling for many reasons. For some, it is simply an opportunity to “fine tune” their relationship by adding new communication tools to their already well-stocked kit. Some couples may have hit an impasse, dealing with major life changes such as becoming parents for the first time, facing a newly empty nest, coming to terms with the aging of their own parents, or a change in career or financial status. Other couples are at a precipice, and feel without some intervention and dramatic changes, their marriage or relationship will end.

“We shall not cease from exploration / And the end of all our exploring / Will be to arrive where we started / And know the place for the first time.”   -T.S. Eliot

Counseling Services, Portland

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Marriage Counseling in Portland

Brenda Fowler, MA, LPC
Turnstone Counseling

1830 NE Grand Ave., Portland, Oregon 97212



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